Reflections on The Six Delusions

The Six Delusions

Part 1:

I want to be the best _________.

Whatever that goal is, specifically, I do not think that it is necessary for others to fail for me to be excellent.

My success is not competitive, it is personal.

Part 2:

Determine what is controllable and what is out of your control.

This is one of the pillars in programs of recovery:

"The wisdom to know the difference."

Focus on changing what you can and "padding" the rest. The point here is to spend planning and energy on things that you can actually do something about, while isolating and eliminating the negative things that you cannot control, and leveraging the positive things that you cannot change.

Recognizing is key... if you identify an "uncontrollable" in your life, surrender to that fact.

Worrying about something has never helped anyone.

There is tremendous power is “surrender".

Part 3:

I understand this two ways:

First - do not deny that a thing cannot be done just because you can't do it.

Again - surrender to the reality that some things may be out of your reach or not possible.

Sometimes you need more work to get there, but, sometimes, you will need to surrender to the fact that it is not a realistic goal for you.

Second - do not deny that someone else is capable of doing something that you are not capable of.

Similar to part 1: others' successes are not necessarily related to your failures.

It is wonderful to celebrate others being better than you at something. Leave envy out of your growth path: it is a delusion.

Part 4:

It is perfectly fine for you to have a different opinion than someone else.

Believe what you want, and let others believe what they want.

You don't even have to talk about it.

But when it is time to share space or work with someone else, set aside your "trivial differences" so that you can accomplish more without the distraction of how you differ.

One of the first things you might notice, is how you are similar, and upon what you agree... you are more alike than you think... it's all about perspective.

Part 5:

Dedicate time to growing and bettering yourself.

Honor the time that you have dedicated to yourself.

Read and learn - continue growing, continue learning, always, so that you delay the complacency of aging.

Push yourself to do the work, do not count on others to motivate or generate accountability - that is your job.

Set goals for yourself and design calculated plans for accomplishing these things. Spending time bettering yourself is not selfish, quite the opposite.

"Put on your own oxygen mask before helping others."

Your growth will make you a better leader for those that depend on you.

If you have dedicated and honored time for your own growth, you will be more present with others without the distraction and concern for your own items.

Part 6:

Live and let live.

(see part 4) It is ok for others to have different opinion. LET THEM

(see part 2) Do not exhaust energy on things you cannot change. LEAVE IT

If someone is in your life, even for a brief moment, assume that it is not an accident.

Ask what purpose they may serve for you, or what they may need from you. Try not to look for how you are different or immediately think you need to change someone. Let them be different and seek an explanation for why they have come into your life, just as they are, and how that might HELP YOU.